The Underlying Truths that Set Me Free

You’re a really terrific woman, but I don’t have time and space in my life to start something…

With you.

I am deeply attracted to you; the reason I didn’t stay the other night had nothing to do with that…

But everything to do with the fact that I had grown tired of you and wanted a cigar more than I wanted to get laid.

I could kiss you all night…

Except for when you press your face too hard against mine and I can feel your teeth pressing through my lips and threatening to draw blood.

I’d love to go with you to a Bastille Day Party…

But I wonder how much it will cost me since in the five times we’ve gone out (in at least as many weeks) you’ve had a dozen opportunities to open your wallet but never have.

I really sorry that I had to cancel dinner with you…

However, when I told you that I had to go deal with my ailing father again and you pouted about your new dress and cancelled plans, I learned everything I needed to know about you.

I’m really sorry that timing isn’t in our favor…

And that it never will be.


19 Responses to The Underlying Truths that Set Me Free

  1. I love this. Bravo.

    Thank you.

  2. I wonder, sometimes, if the world wouldn’t be a better place if some of these were said aloud.

    It is a careful mental algorithm to determine which should be said and which should be kept… but yes, I do think the world might be a better place if more of these statements were allowed to escape.

  3. Wow. I can’t imagine why you’d let such a deep woman go?

    She really does have a great number of attractive characteristics.

  4. Liebchen says:

    I feel like this is a reminder of how much we leave unsaid. For better or worse.

    I’d really like to think that it was for the better in this scenario – really who would have gained from sharing these nuggets?

  5. Christina says:

    It really does set you free. Some things are better said than others but the meaning is an underlying current.

    I like to think of it as the best reason to have a blog – a space where you can write the things that might have gotten you slapped had you given them voice.

  6. So I’m guessing you didn’t voice the italics then……?

    nope, all in my head… and because I am a good poker player, not written all over my face.

  7. Sara says:

    Is it possible that she is too daft to hear anything that went unsaid? The truth is always in the silences.

    She is an incredibly bright and accomplished woman, but no, she has no idea what went unsaid.

  8. viewonderingnomad says:

    If only we could be this honest with people in real life. Except when you actually say these things out loud, it tends to frighten & anger people. Hence why I have many pseudo-relationships that don’t work out; yet, for some reason, my victims nearly always want to remain friends afterward and ask for advice. Le sigh.

    I’ve been lurking for a while…sorry that I’ve never commented before. Your writing is so poignant that it makes me green with envy.

    Welcome to the conversation! While the world surely needs more honesty, the question most certainly is “how much?”

  9. Vie says:

    Also…nothing destroys my attraction to someone else as easily as a bad kiss. General styles aren’t universal, but some things are (or should be). Ow.

    It was her odd method of displaying intensity. It was rather like being punished for good behavior.

  10. Kristin says:

    There are so many things that we think and never say. Very well done.

    Thank you. The sad converse of you point (at least for me) is that there are also so many things that we say and never think.

  11. kitty says:

    I like this post. Just confirms my theory that life would be more interesting if I could see thought bubbles.

    That’d be one hella scary super power.

  12. lacochran says:

    Wait, are all of these the same woman? Yeesh.

    You know how you had that relationship with someone you really liked but your friend only heard the bad stuff? This is one of those situations.

  13. T says:

    I sure am glad I can read between lines. At the same time, I’ve never been able to dish out the dirty italicized truths.

    A month ago, a guy I was seeing told me he had to take some time off because he was catching feelings and that *I* wasn’t ready for a relationship. Truth is, I am ready. In reality, I was distancing myself because I didn’t want to be involved…

    …with him.

    I think that most dirty, italicized truths are best left unsaid.

  14. Lazygal says:

    Sounds like you’ve had a bad time all ’round. If she can’t read the thought bubbles, you’re well shot of her. And if she can, perhaps the next guy will have a better relationship as a result!

    The only reason I considered sharing some of these thoughts was for her “benefit” and that of her next partner, but she is too old not to know better about most of these things.

  15. Shannon says:

    New dress and cancelled plans as an excuse to pout? Now, if you’d bailed on her for arbitrary or shallow reasons, I could see being upset. As in, communicating her disappointment and irritation to you in a clear and adult manner. Not pouting, heaven knows why people over the age of 8 think that’s an appropriate reaction.

    The really sad thing is that I think she thought it was somehow attractive…

  16. Lisa says:

    You are very diplomatic. That was nicely crafted.

    And sometimes diplomacy is overrated, but thank you nonetheless.

  17. k8 says:

    I said some of the italicized words last week. And even though it was horrid and ended it all, I no longer have that sick feeling in my stomach.

    Good for you for giving voice to that which so often goes unsaid.

  18. elle dubya says:

    somedays i think its just easier to be single.

  19. Titania says:

    she sounds a bit like a spoiled brat to me… Maybe she needs to hear some of the italicized parts, or maybe not, if she is smart she can probably figure them out, I think.

    At my age, her age too, I’m not sure that listening to the italics would translate to hearing them.

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