After Yet Another Attorney Date left me sitting at Vidalia to enjoy an over priced Manhattan and an outrageously priced wine list, I reminded myself that getting stood-up is a good thing. I blogged about the experience, again reminding myself that it was ultimately a good outcome. I thought the chances were rather slim that there was a reasonable explanation for her behavior but on the off chance those reasons existed I sent an email.
Perhaps you were sitting at another place named Vidalia thinking the same things I was thinking. Perhaps you too had a cocktail or a glass of wine and kept looking at the door. Perhaps you too kept checking the email on your phone to see if some last minute change occurred. Perhaps you too finished your cocktail, two sections of the newspaper, and concluded that thirty minutes was enough time. Perhaps you too settled your tab and walked outside pausing to look both ways for a hurried date rushing to the restaurant. Perhaps we just missed each other in a completely logical and understandable manner. Perhaps you wrote Wednesday but thought Thursday.
Perhaps you saved me a great deal of time.
YAAD replied almost immediately and apologetically. She wrote that her mind recorded the date for Thursday though she wrote Wednesday. Her tone was sincere and she asked if there were any way to persuade me to meet her that evening.
I’ve been on the other side of this (I once went to the wrong Ritz Carlton) and didn’t have plans for the evening, thus I agreed. We opted for drinks at Mark and Orlando’s. YAAD and I talked animatedly. She is a very good conversationalist, practices a type of law I consider fascinating, and is just lovely in general.
The chemistry was not instant but neither was it non existent. Our conversation evolved as two friends’ might but with a low simmer flame burning underneath. Around the middle of our night, the disclosure of YAAD’s previously unmentioned status as a vegan doused that low flame for me but not my enthusiasm for knowing her. We continued talking for more than hour after that – it’s not that I don’t like vegans, I just can’t imagine dating one.
Our evening ended cordially and with the energy of two people who have platonic affections but certainly not the other kind.
As much vitriol as I had for Vidalia and their wine list, I have praise for Mark & Orlando’s. Some might suggest the two have no basis for comparison as M&O’s is by comparison considerably more casual, the difference is philosophical. The cooking at M&O’s is not as complex as Vidalia’s but it is soulful, careful, and very satisfying. The wine service is not as elegant, the lips of the glasses not quite as thin but the wines are sourced with great care and priced reasonably. Where as Vidalia seeks to return $100 for every $25 invested in their wine program, M&O is comfortable with a $60 return on the same investment.
I am grateful that YAAD and I eventually connected as I hope that she will be a friend, but also because it gave me a chance to reacquaint myself with a restaurant that had fallen too far from my radar screen.