Ordinary Pain

It was odd that I was found myself having a beer and consoling my super cute colleague about a very recent breakup with her boyfriend. It was not odd that I would lend a sympathetic ear to someone I don’t know that well. It was not odd for me to provide an opportunity for a woman to vent about a “man that done her wrong.” It was odd that I, a gentleman with a close history of heartache, would have that ear, that capacity to allow someone opportunity to vent. But there we were at a slightly divey Capitol Hill pub discussing her pain and a bit of mine too.

She had the misfortune to fall for a man incapable of making decisions of life long consequence. What makes this so painful for her is that she never had a baseline of happiness; she was mostly happy before she met him but felt incomplete without that significant someone. It wasn’t the right moment for me to tell her about the need to be happy with and by one’s self before developing the capacity to be with someone else. I just listened, offered advice when asked, and was the person who wouldn’t let her go home after work because she really didn’t need to rattle around in her house alone with her thoughts.

I wanted to take away her pain – no gentleman likes to see a woman cry – but all I could do was listen. SCC I hope you know that pain will fade because it always does, my phone is always on, my door always open, and you are always welcome to my scotch.

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2 Responses to Ordinary Pain

  1. sometimes..JUST listening..is the hardest thing to do…good job kiddo
    xoxo

  2. Mandy says:

    I don’t pretend to be the voice of all women everywhere… but I will say that as humans (whether male or female) most of the time, we just want to be heard. And at the same time, we don’t spend enough time listening to one another.

    While maybe not the right time that night, you might consider sharing your thoughts on finding happiness with her at some point. It’s sounds like you’re a great friend, and thereby you probably know exactly the right words to use.

    PS. thanks for the comment. i think you’re spot on. 🙂

    Thanks for stopping by. SCC and I had coffee yesterday where she was in a better place to hear that message.

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