- Apparently, every man inflates his height by at least two inches
- People who claim to “look X number of years younger” usually have a maturity level that is multiplier of X number of years younger too.
- Less than 10% of women are more attractive than their pictures upon first meeting. Usually it’s the women with the accidental and or group photos who are in that 10%
- There ought to be a mandatory “honesty window” after the first drink, during which one or both parties are afforded opportunity to end a date without explanation or harsh feelings.
- The slim response rate to “real” emails (differentiated from the vulgar, the one liners, the barely literate) encourages men to use such passive approaches like the wink, woo, or whatever one-click measure a given site has.
- Despite the slim odds expressed in #5, the wink is still the hallmark of a lazy flirt and/or an inactive mind.
- Rule #6 applies primarily to men. Yes, it’s a double standard, yes, all men need to get over it.
- If a woman is interested in you, there is no volume of messages in her inbox that will delay a response to a well written message.
- Women with only one picture posted have a tendency to prefer an informational imbalance. That passive power play will extend to other areas of virtual and actual interaction.
- Match algorithms are a terrific guide, but musical preferences are an incredibly accurate predictor of compatibility.
- Women who don’t read are almost certainly going to be poor conversationalists (further evidence provided in the form of Sarah Palin.)
- Just as a gentleman doesn’t have the option of refusing a drink from a lady (he is required to offer at least 10 minutes of polite conversation,) he is similarly obliged to respond to all valid initial messages from a woman… if only to encourage the practice of women choosing rather then waiting to be chosen.
- The existence of true chemistry cannot be confirmed via email exchanges but the absence of it can.
- Women and men who are obviously hiding something in their pictures (i.e. – always wearing hats, all pictures taken from slimming angles, facial close-ups only) have esteem issues. This shouldn’t inherently eliminate them, but it is an important data point.
- Optimism is a good thing – I know six married couples who met via electronic assistance, and three more who are engaged or about to be – but should never be confused with the over-eager.
- Reasonable caution and pessimism shouldn’t be confused, one is pragmatic, the other unattractive.
- The effort may not always be appreciated or rewarded, but one should always dress with some effort and intention. Failure to exhibit effort may be a sign of latent pessimism.
- Always have a reason to meet someone in person. “Why not,” ego boosts, and “nothing better to do” are not reasons.
This list was originally drafted in response to a message received from a woman and her list of lessons. Feel free (not like any of you lovely blogtarts* need permission to express your opinions) to disagree with any of the aforementioned and/or add your own.
* term lifted from the incredibly talented author the Skrinkering Hearts blog, a woman I am delighted to call a virtual friend.
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